At the ripe old age of one day, each of us knows we are the center of the universe. We have been fed, warmed, protected and rocked for the entirety of our 9-month existence, and we assume life will continue this way. So we drink, sleep and amaze ourselves with new experiences until one day, no one responds to our cries for food or comfort.
This comes as a shock, perhaps also with a shake, a slap or a harsh tone of voice. And so it begins, that we learn not to trust, to feel unimportant and helpless, to know neglect and possibly abuse. We have no words for this state; it is just a feeling of not being enough.
As we become verbal and learn to form concepts, especially during our first seven years, we make up stories to explain to ourselves why we don’t deserve love, praise, affection and acceptance. We must be responsible for our caregiver’s abandonment. After all, we need our caregiver’s love in order to survive.
Our parents likely do love us, but may not have the time or emotional skill to express this. We grow up believing that we lack something important – intelligence, good looks or talent. We lose touch with the wholeness and brilliance inside us, and sink into insecurity, depression, and self-sabotage.
We may try to fill the emptiness with relationships, addictions, an impressive bank account. And one day, we realize we are in a looping circuit of unhappiness and dissatisfaction. We will be restless until we unearth the precious gem of our gifts and our purpose in the world.
All of our beliefs are not true. A belief is just an assumption that something is true, and then repeated thoughts that confirm it. When we finally ask ourselves, “Is this true?” (that I am not competent, smart, successful, worthy, etc.), and realize we’ve been fooling ourselves, we are poised to activate our resilience.
Enter Rapid Transformational Therapy. It doesn’t take years of talking about your childhood to reframe old experiences and turn them into affirmations of strength and hope. I am not diminishing the need for talk therapy in layered and complex situations. RTT can augment the success of other therapies in these cases. I am offering a choice to change your thoughts and emotions by collaborating with your subconscious mind through hypnosis. This is how you create a new future for yourself, free from the bonds of the past.
